Monday, 31 March 2014

The Life and Death

Despite taking due care with our daily life, we never know which direction does this fatal death approaches to us but one day or another we have to face by any means. No sentient beings in the world has desire to face such dreadful thing but everyone has to go through it without any choice when time knocks on its turn. The great scholar on death, Sogyal Rinpoche said, “Death is not a tragedy to be feared, but a opportunity for transformation. Death is our greatest teacher. It wakes us up, help us to purify and simplify our lives and sort out our priorities”. So far I observed many people, if they don’t witness the death they never think for the preparation of death but in the mean time we waste the life in the material world.

The question always comes in my mind! Does anybody thinking about the essence of being born on this planet? And does anybody think about this uncertainty of the death? I don’t know about the others but I myself think that I have wasted my precious life without achieving any reasonable and meaningful knowledge about leading good life and facing uncertain death. I saw many people dying during my childhood in my own family and even in neighbor’s houses in my village. When I was five years old, the death without any mercy trapped my caring and loving father leaving me hanging on my mother’s back. There upon, I realized about the death but I wonder why I’m still left in this situation without practicing the dharma seriously. I knew very well that the death has no mercy, whether he/she may be old or young, rich or poor, the powerful death has no time bound when he approaches to the door step. The only thing that we can face the death without any difficulty is to know the true nature of our mind through practicing of dharma in this life.

As we all know that this life is transient like autumn clouds, it is evident that the waves of the clouds are taken away by the force of wind where ever it like and lands up in the places without its destination. Similarly, our parents and relatives are also like visitors to the market place, where they come and go during the existence of this impermanent life. Likewise, how much we endeavor our wealth during our life, it’s impermanent and it’s like dew drops on the tip of grass. In this samsaric world, even our body which has been caring and feeding like a baby has no essence because it’s like bubbles on the surface of the water. One day it has to vanish and turn into ashes or will be buried under the soil, how much we care.

According to Buddhism and Hinduism, the only hope would be the life after death which is proved even by the scientists around the world about the life to be continued after the death. But it is not guaranteed about what kind of beings we would be reborn because it entirely based on present performance of our deeds. As, lord Buddha said, “our present life is the consequences of passed life and our future life would be depend upon the present deeds”. So, let’s hope for the best in our next generation.

Tuesday, 11 March 2014

The Journey of My Life over the Intermediate State

What is happening with me? Is it happening miracles or is it my feelings of emotions and sufferings in the state of intermediate state running after my true love to tell you about my emotional moments and sufferings of life without you? The unceasing pain of my broken heart beats goes up till 100 degrees and breaks my body, soul and speech into bloods and forms the particles of tears that rolled down and filled up my face when I hear that you are gone with another man. This unexpected situation in my life was like a nightmare and I didn’t believe in your voice and asked to my friends but they confirmed the fact of real story which proved beyond the reasonable doubt. No matter how the birds fly high up in the sky but its shadow being always on the earth, likewise, no matter where you are and how you are but my love like a printed notes that being crafted on the hard rock is always there for you my sweetest love. 
  
In the state of complete silence without hearing your voice and without your presence, I feel my life so incomplete like an unstable cloud being swift away by the strong force of wind and like a blind man left in the middle of the ground, I could not find my own way to the proper destinations. I need your guidance and support. I feel the sky above is clear but moon like your face seems covered by the thick cloud and I cannot see your beautiful face any more. Why this ill fate love is happening with me to dump me so innocently in this situation? Oh! God, if you have mercy on me, please help me.

I might have hurt your emotions unintentionally but ever since you came into my life, I have never committed any wrongs but I preserved everything especially for you only. Still you have not believed in me, and gone with another man leaving me behind with the broken heart. But never mind, when the day you will come to realize about my true love and truth, that time you will respect my love and truth for being true and sincere love from the depth of my heart.

Ever since you left me, I tried my level best to console myself and thought one day the pain may heal with the span of time, but the condition gets worse day by day with never ending pain in my heart. Thinking about our togetherness and recollecting all the memories of our good times and bad times leads my imagination wings to fly over the never ending thoughts but every time I could not come to the conclusion. I even think I’m getting mad because I think of you every single moment with love in my heart ever as I promised you many things in the name of our love.

Actually, I am foolish who cries over the spilled milk, but what to do for this unseen powerless vehicle of my mind drags my painful heart into the thoughts like a transmission of frequency that connects the device. Sometimes, I feel myself, that my cognitive conscious is experiencing the real journey over the intermediate state leaving my empty body alive. My mind like a thin feather blowing away by the strong wind and I have no proper place to hold on any more. The pain of your absence is very strong and I can’t bear this anymore. I’m writing this note called “the journey of my life over the intermediate state”, so that you may know my situation because I may not live longer in this world.  

The Love

According to the Oxford dictionary, “love is a very strong feeling of affection towards someone whom you are romantically or sexually attracted”. Somehow, it is true, but the meaning of love must defer from person to person with different reasons and intentions for their own interpretations. Some says, “love is composed of single soul inhabiting the two bodies” and etc..But for me, “love is all about being neutral and understanding with trust and faith avoiding jealousy and envy in relationship”. As, jealousy, anger, attachment and greed are the source of sufferings in which if, a partner has jealous about his/her love, it is as if like a person sharing bed with the poisonous snake. There wouldn’t be any freedom and peace in one’s mind believing that his/her partner may have extra marital affairs and so on. 

 According to my observations, I found many people make love on two grounds; (1) for the continuous relationship with their particular partner in one’s life time with trust and faith. (2) for temporary measure on different intentions and obligations which leads to breakdown of relations in chaos. I have no comments on the first part, because it’s the perfect love which is bound with trust and faith discovered in each other and such love is considered a gift of God.

But in the modern world, the second part of the love that I mentioned above is very much prevailing around the world; no wonder who he/she may be, with speed and easy access to communications in the world, the varieties of relationship develops over the period. In the way, most of the love happenings around are found to be fake and untrue love, love with desirous for lust and money, love with intention to cheat and betrayal of others are the consequences of ill fate love. In my opinion, such love is like powerless vehicle of our mind drags by the painful heart into many thoughts like a transmission of frequency that connects the device and vehicle running on the rough road without proper destinations. Moreover, the person should feel ashamed of committing undesirable and unwholesome actions with another person in the name of love.

It’s really depressing and difficult to note that most of the weaker sections of the society are the victims of ill fate love, because they expect too much from opposite side, when promises in the name of love. At last they are defeated by their loved ones in the emotional state of pain and sufferings.

However, everything has to heal up with the span of time and everything happens with its own reasons, be it love or divorce. But in my opinions, one need to have complete trust and faith in our relationship, being self centered with jealous and envy will leads to emotional sufferings with hatred and ultimate breakdown of relationship. Therefore, I earnestly request my fellow loving partners, please avoid jealousy in love relationships. I have realized that the taming of our minds with love and affections with particular partner is the root cause of ultimate happiness for successful love marriage.